Lately I've been doing a whole lot of whining about me, stressing over $, and feeling blah blah blah. I am not sure this one should be sent, or uploaded, which is sad enough to inspire a laugh. Anyway, here it is, even if it is never seen, even if it never sees a response.
Heard from old friend, best friend in high school, he's retired and in Palm Beach now.
Heard from pen pal from India, only exchanged a few emails, he or she praises me a lot.
Emailed a woman in Longwood about a room. Still would be a room in someone else's home, but would be my own bath, hopefully with a better sharer, and above all else, cleaner. Hopeful, if she responds. $600 a month with a $600 deposit, $50 more a month than I pay here. Looks like a decent house in a better neighborhood, though I'm not positive. More reason to stop spending $, especially until the car is fully paid off. Then I am going to think about buying a house if I can find one in a decent area for $150,000. Tina is right about Volusia county being cheaper than Seminole, but I've got to consider the trips to softball. No worries, I wouldn't call you any more than I do now if I lived closer. Seriously. I just need to find a place I can afford and I'll hibernate mostly. If I can find a place similar in size to yours, it would be ideal. I could bring all of my stuff out of storage and have $280 a month more for living. Then I could even think about selling stuff on eBay or Amazon an earn more $ that way. The house would probably have to be a fixer-upper, but it makes sense cuz mortgages are lower than rent.
Feel free to help, cuz I sure can use some.
I also thought about living in a senior community or even a senior living center, but that seems scary and for me, almost stupid. I don't conform well and am not ready to live like I'm old. I haven't explored those yet. The thing is, I just haven't been able to find a roommate to share space. I've been on roommates sites for more than two years, sent dozens, many dozens of messages. I think my age has a lot to do with it, but it could be a lot of other things too. Anyway, though this living space gets to me and I have given up at times in the past couple of years, I am not giving up and just wanted you to know. That's a good thing.
We haven't shared in such a long time. I wish you'd find a way past your guilt so you can be my friend again :)
Laugh?
I so rarely know your reaction to my serious jokes :)
Or anything.
We wont go into my medical stuff just now... rolling eyes and acting all nonchalant lol (laugh with me, please?)
Ok, so I think I've decided on an iphone. I can get an 8plus for $25 a month. Much much better for my eyes. I am used to the iphone. The 7plus is $23 a month so it makes sense for $2 a month more to get the better phone. There are some differences worth the $2 a month. I don't think I want to get used to the Android again. I won't need to think about another phone for 3 years. Probably lol :)
The other option is buy the cheapest phone I can find, refurbished or used, keep not using it as much as I might because the screen is so small, and see how long it might last and wait until September (or later) when the next newest models come out but they probably will be more at least at first. Hopefully they won't be a big difference in the October models. Back in the 80's I was living so much more comfortably and buying all the latest tech. I was earning twice the national average, about what I make now. The economy really has screwed us middle class. Makes me wonder why more people don't see it.
So I must face and really deal with the fact I am still not financially ready to get an iPad or better computer. But to back up an iphone I'm going to have to get a better computer. I really don't know why I am having so much of a challenge living on $45K a year. The car payment probably is the biggest reason. Putting more into a retirement plan is another reason. Paying $700 a month for "rent" is another factor, but I was handling more when we were living together most months. Maybe the biggest difference is eating less economically because I don't have a clean fridge or kitchen. Not having any savings left may be a factor, but it still feels puzzling. When I worked for UBC I was making $45K a year and I was able to save some money. Prices rise that much?
So I've renewed my effort to live healthier and more economically this weekend. Not spending money this weekend and will try not to all week except for the phone so I'll not stress over Nashville next weekend. Then gonna try to spend as little money as possible the rest of July and August and then World Series trip to Tampa in September.
Based on this weekend, it is extremely lonely living this way.
Wish I had someone to talk to more often. Any ideas about why it is so challenging for me to find someone I can really relate to - and who can and wants to relate to me?
I'll appreciate a serious answer from you as a friend or my sister or a therapist, whatever works for you :)
Or just nod and send a hug as you usually do. I'm used to that :)
Thanks for listening, this has helped reinforce what I need to do.
I'll try to lay down and watch The Animaniacs now.
hug thanks, love you
hl,
ric
Heard from old friend, best friend in high school, he's retired and in Palm Beach now.
Heard from pen pal from India, only exchanged a few emails, he or she praises me a lot.
Emailed a woman in Longwood about a room. Still would be a room in someone else's home, but would be my own bath, hopefully with a better sharer, and above all else, cleaner. Hopeful, if she responds. $600 a month with a $600 deposit, $50 more a month than I pay here. Looks like a decent house in a better neighborhood, though I'm not positive. More reason to stop spending $, especially until the car is fully paid off. Then I am going to think about buying a house if I can find one in a decent area for $150,000. Tina is right about Volusia county being cheaper than Seminole, but I've got to consider the trips to softball. No worries, I wouldn't call you any more than I do now if I lived closer. Seriously. I just need to find a place I can afford and I'll hibernate mostly. If I can find a place similar in size to yours, it would be ideal. I could bring all of my stuff out of storage and have $280 a month more for living. Then I could even think about selling stuff on eBay or Amazon an earn more $ that way. The house would probably have to be a fixer-upper, but it makes sense cuz mortgages are lower than rent.
Feel free to help, cuz I sure can use some.
I also thought about living in a senior community or even a senior living center, but that seems scary and for me, almost stupid. I don't conform well and am not ready to live like I'm old. I haven't explored those yet. The thing is, I just haven't been able to find a roommate to share space. I've been on roommates sites for more than two years, sent dozens, many dozens of messages. I think my age has a lot to do with it, but it could be a lot of other things too. Anyway, though this living space gets to me and I have given up at times in the past couple of years, I am not giving up and just wanted you to know. That's a good thing.
We haven't shared in such a long time. I wish you'd find a way past your guilt so you can be my friend again :)
Laugh?
I so rarely know your reaction to my serious jokes :)
Or anything.
We wont go into my medical stuff just now... rolling eyes and acting all nonchalant lol (laugh with me, please?)
Ok, so I think I've decided on an iphone. I can get an 8plus for $25 a month. Much much better for my eyes. I am used to the iphone. The 7plus is $23 a month so it makes sense for $2 a month more to get the better phone. There are some differences worth the $2 a month. I don't think I want to get used to the Android again. I won't need to think about another phone for 3 years. Probably lol :)
The other option is buy the cheapest phone I can find, refurbished or used, keep not using it as much as I might because the screen is so small, and see how long it might last and wait until September (or later) when the next newest models come out but they probably will be more at least at first. Hopefully they won't be a big difference in the October models. Back in the 80's I was living so much more comfortably and buying all the latest tech. I was earning twice the national average, about what I make now. The economy really has screwed us middle class. Makes me wonder why more people don't see it.
So I must face and really deal with the fact I am still not financially ready to get an iPad or better computer. But to back up an iphone I'm going to have to get a better computer. I really don't know why I am having so much of a challenge living on $45K a year. The car payment probably is the biggest reason. Putting more into a retirement plan is another reason. Paying $700 a month for "rent" is another factor, but I was handling more when we were living together most months. Maybe the biggest difference is eating less economically because I don't have a clean fridge or kitchen. Not having any savings left may be a factor, but it still feels puzzling. When I worked for UBC I was making $45K a year and I was able to save some money. Prices rise that much?
So I've renewed my effort to live healthier and more economically this weekend. Not spending money this weekend and will try not to all week except for the phone so I'll not stress over Nashville next weekend. Then gonna try to spend as little money as possible the rest of July and August and then World Series trip to Tampa in September.
Based on this weekend, it is extremely lonely living this way.
Wish I had someone to talk to more often. Any ideas about why it is so challenging for me to find someone I can really relate to - and who can and wants to relate to me?
I'll appreciate a serious answer from you as a friend or my sister or a therapist, whatever works for you :)
Or just nod and send a hug as you usually do. I'm used to that :)
Thanks for listening, this has helped reinforce what I need to do.
I'll try to lay down and watch The Animaniacs now.
hug thanks, love you
hl,
ric
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